Friday, March 5, 2010

Men are from Mars and I am on Earth..

This is one of those things that I have been trying to conjure up but as usual I fail to think of some concrete matter before hand to make this a good read. So this blog will yet again be a brew of mixed thoughts and emotions and some random talks and hap hazard writing.

Let me proclaim first up that I am a MAN! I have all that a MAN needs to have and I show all MAN qualities and Habits. I drink, I chill with friends, I love sports and I also love to gossip like most guys do! YES! it is a proven fact and I can testify that MEN LOVE TO GOSSIP! it is something no man will admit...but I have the balls to admit it too lol...hence proved I am out and out MAN! plus I ride the HERO HONDA HUNK which only a real MAN can handle....lol

yaar but then there are things which I don't agree on with 90% men! lol... now I have been called a traitor for that by my fellow men but then this is how I am and this is what I believe in...

A lot of my friends ( I don't wanna name them since they are my closest friends)*Taarak mehta ka ooltah chasma is soooo funny man lol* have been trying to teach me on how to woo women and keep them in check! trust me these are the exact things I was told...that you need to keep women in check! God damn it! Some told me that you should know how to play mind games with them and keep them guessing, some told me you shoudl define your boundaries even if you are committed with her for life....

Now I wanan question this...I do not like to preach to the choir or rather what they say "playing the been in front of the buffalo" and so I am writing this blog...

I am not as experienced with women aas some of my other friends...especially those who have told me these things...and so they tend to disregard my opinion but its fine by me coz I am what I am and I will never do anything against my train of thoughts or ideologies...how do you really manipulate a woman to like you!? how can you ever ever be in love and want to Set boundaries for that person!? Isn't it such an oxymoron!? isn't there no value to being honest and true and self assured? i somewhere think that men who want to manipulate women are really not secured about themselves...NO I don't mean to demean them but i feel that is the reason....

Only a man who is not assured and secured about himself will want to manipulate a woman or try to play mind games...yes there is that small little moments where you play pranks or do some mischief with that ONE WOMAN but the intention matters...if you do it to try and affect an end result then its manipulation but if you do it just to enjoy the moment then you will not miss out on those small moments...the glint in her eyes when she is laughing, the blush on her face but men these days are too busy...trying to think how to effect the outcome!

Wooing a woman or even being with a woman is become very very much like a game of chess...coz every man is thinking about the check mate! no body wants to enjoy that phase...and I guess thats why they say men are from Mars...I believe the exact reverse applies to women too...most women are too busy playin the game and miss out on enjoyign the moments and thats why women are from venus!

there are very few men and women left on earth and I am one of them...I have been through the process of wooing a woman before and being their best friend even more than that but never really have I bothered to worry about how I will end up in that process or how can I effect the outcome...Maybe thats why I am different and I get along well with most girls I know...and the funniest thing being..I am called a flirt by most men I know lol and none of the women ever see any malice in my intent or my friendship....

I am just wondering this blog is becoming so ME vs the OTHER MEN but the fact remains that I am upset with how people have been talking to me about women almost treating them like commodities or vegetative items and even worse Pets!

Trust me guys...the day you realize a woman is not your pet but the most precious thing in your life, you will never see any boundaries and never think about any games! The moment you respect and trust your instinct you will be happier irrespective of what the outcome is!anyways I almost sound like a feminist leader now but then izz cool...

gotta run now..have work in a while...cheers...